Perspectives

Perspectives

Life is too short to live with repressed emotions.

What we say not, but want to speak out, often form whirlpools inside us. And it is these that often create so loud a disconcerting cacophony that even most of our internal dialogues become voiceless.

Life, however, is too evanescent to let these forced silences take away the inbred peace within us.

Sometimes we keep silent because we feel the other person might get hurt. Sometimes because we feel we might invite hurt from the person spoken to. A free flow of communication begins & sustains for most parts once these two fears are absolved. So, have the courage to express your feelings. And have the empathy to let not another’s courage go subdued.

While taking care of the practicalities of life, we sometimes too often let the emotional aspects slide past. We go to bed holding anger, let resentments steal away our sleep, bottle up our worries for tomorrow. Life is far too uncertain. It can end in an indefinite instant. So, reconcile the differences with those who matter to you. Share your feelings with those you’d rather. And live a life true to yourself, not the life others expect of you.

Just let yourself be remorselessly happier!

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Social Networking Guidelines

Social Networking Guidelines
  1. The number one rule of social networking is to offer to help others before asking for anything in return. You can even go so far as to help others without expecting anything in return. Serve others before serving yourself. Keith Ferrazzi , author of ‘Never Eat Alone‘ put it best, “The currency of networking is generosity.”
  2. Don’t talk about yourself all the time. Talk about other stuff – share relevant industry articles, not just ones about you or your company, be happy about others’ achievements and share their good news, ask other people about themselves once in a while.
  3. Don’t monopolize the conversation. If you’re just pushing out information without ever engaging with your followers, answering their questions, thanking them, having a little back-and-forth dialogue, then you’re missing the bus. And no one’s gonna wanna follow you for long.
  4. Don’t be a bully. Trolls, flamers and “bashtaggers” are the online equivalent of the playground bully who goes around picking on the little kids. It’s easy to hide behind anonymous social profiles, but that’s just cowardly and uncool. Be nice.
  5. Don’t take what’s not yours. Always give credit where credit is due and don’t steal others’ proprietary work. What goes around, comes around.
  6. If you wouldn’t do it in real life, don’t do it online. Watch what you say and do… it’s all immortalized online.
  7. Say please and thank you. This one’s a no-brainer. Thank others for following you, retweeting you, sharing your content. Thank them by sharing their content, following back or acknowledging them on Follow Friday. Jump onto the comment thread to thank people for sharing their thoughts. Those “magic words” go a long way.

Originally written by: Stacy Donovan Zapar, the most connected woman on LinkedIn since 2008 with more than 40,000 1st-level connections, and 85K+ followers, making her the #5 most connected person out of 400 million members worldwide.

If You’re Happy and You Know It…

If You’re Happy and You Know It…

 

Learning to leverage happiness in the workplace starts one person at a time.

Most of us have either sat around a campfire ourselves and sang the words or we’ve joined along with our own or other people’s children in a sing-along of “If You’re Happy and You Know It…” followed by the random actions chosen by each singer depicting what makes him or her happy.

If only it were that easy to replicate happiness in the workplace by simply clapping our hands together!

So what does it really take to make us happy at work?

HAPPINESS IS…

Happiness is not just an emotional quality of being. Within the workplace context, happiness is also a person’s sense of satisfaction with work and life in general.

Nic Marks, founder of the Centre for Well-Being based in the United Kingdom, developed the “Happiness at Work Survey.”. Marks highlights factors impacting happiness at work, namely, enjoyment of the work itself and doing what you do best, along with your pride in the organization you work for and the quality of the management you receive.

These factors strongly influence how you perform on the job. Being able to do the work you love and are good at goes a long way toward job satisfaction. Marks highlights how a well-managed organization affects the degree of collaboration between teams and departments and the support received to get the work done.

The Happiness at Work Survey compares happiness at home and work, examines feelings toward the job itself, your relationships at work, the state of the organization itself, and even the social impact or value your work has.

IMPACT OF HAPPINESS ON WORK

According to the World Happiness Report 2013, edited by researchers John Helliwell, Richard Layard, and Jeffrey Sachs, the United States ranked in 17th position on level of happiness out of 156 countries worldwide.

Their findings suggest happy people live longer, are more productive, earn more, and are better citizens. Helliwell and his colleagues recommend that countries place as much emphasis on their citizens’ mental health as they do on economic growth.

Zappos founder Tony Hsieh and the Delivering Happiness group out of Las Vegas point to Gallup evidence that disengaged employees cost the American economy up to $350 billion a year due to lost productivity, as an indicator of what unhappiness costs us.

These “actively disengaged” workers were defined as “individuals who are unhappy at work and act out their unhappiness.” Unhappy employees affect those around them by their negative attitudes, likelihood for low performance, increased sickness and absenteeism, and other factors that sabotage productivity.

BRINGING HAPPINESS TO WORK

Harvard lecturer Shawn Achor, author of Before Happiness and The Happiness Advantage, states 90 percent of longterm happiness is derived from how your brain processes the world and your life experiences. You might think, “If I work harder, I’ll be more successful. Then if I’m more successful, then I will be happier.” The reality is that our view of the world will determine our outlook. Happiness, Achor points out, is an inside job.

Srikumar Rao, the author of Happiness at Work, says we must dispense with this flawed “if/then” model for happiness. “There is nothing you have to get, do, or be in order to be happy,” he writes.

Achor suggests doing different activities on a regular basis to draw upon positive psychology principles to bring happiness into the workplace.

For example, to create a lasting positive change, he recommends writing down three new things you are grateful for each day over a 21-day period. You might even start journaling these reflections. This will help change your personal outlook.

One way to bring happiness to others is to send out an e-mail of gratitude to someone each day before reading or responding to other e-mails in your inbox. This starts the day off positively for the recipient, as well as yourself, by sending out positive messages.

Dr. Donald Moynihan of the University of Wisconsin – Madison found that helping others at work actually makes us happier. Even if it is just for a few minutes, altruistic acts make us feel better about ourselves. In fact, his research identified that “being motivated to help and believing your work makes a difference is associated with greater happiness in our analysis.”

Helping others even makes us feel like we have more time, according to Dr. Cassie Mogilner from the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School of Business. Her findings revealed that when people helped others for just 10 to 30 minutes a day, they felt less time-constrained than those who had wasted their time.

HAPPINESS HELPS US LEARN BETTER

You knew, of course, that being happy makes you a better learner. It seems happiness and learning are closely linked in our minds. Research by Dr. Manfred Spitzer, a professor of psychiatry at the University of Ulm, showed that people who have positive experiences activate the nucleus accumbiens area of the brain, which is also responsible for accelerating the learning process.

Dr. David Rock, co-founder of the NeuroLeadership Institute, identified similar findings. He notes: “There is a large and growing body of research that indicates that people experiencing positive emotions perceive more options when trying to solve problems, solve more non-linear problems that require insight, collaborate better and generally perform better overall.”

As learning & development professionals, we must generate greater happiness and positive emotions around our learning design and development. We need to ask our learners how we can help them gain a greater appreciation for the subject matter being taught or demonstrated.

You and I cannot pretend we can be happy at work all the time nor can we make others happy. This is neither realistic nor desirable. Unhappy experiences happen, and negative emotions are normal.

But we can learn to be happy more regularly and consistently on the job. Then we can positively influence those around us to be able to clap their hands when they personally know they are happy, too!

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Original Article Author: Roy Saunderson. He is author of GIVING the Real Recognition Way and Chief Learning Officer of Rideau’s Recognition Management Institute, a consulting and training firm specializing in helping companies “get recognition right.” Its focus is on showing leaders how to give real recognition to create positive relationships, better workplaces, and real results.

A Classroom Experiment In Socialism

A Classroom Experiment In Socialism

An economics professor at a local college made a statement that he had never failed a single student before, but had recently failed an entire class. That class had insisted that socialism worked and that no one would be poor and no one would be rich, a great equalizer.

The professor then said, “OK, we will have an experiment in this class on socialist plan. All grades will be averaged and everyone will receive the same grade so no one will fail and no one will receive an A.” He substituted grades for dollars, as it was something closer to home and more readily understood by all students.

After the first test, the grades were averaged and everyone got a B. The students who studied hard were upset and the students who studied little were happy.

As the second test rolled around, the students who had studied little had studied even less, and the ones who had studied hard earlier decided that they too wanted a free ride – so they also studied quite little.

The second test average was a D. No one was happy.

When the 3rd test rolled around, the average was an F. Everyone was fuming from their ears.

As the tests proceeded, the scores never increased. But bickering, blame-games and name-calling started giving all hard feelings, and finally no one would study for the benefit of anyone else.

Not to their great surprise, all of them failed.

Then the professor told them that socialism would also ultimately fail because when the reward is great, the effort to succeed is great. But when government takes all the reward away, no one will try or want to succeed.

The following are 5 sentences applicable to this experiment:

  1. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity.
  2. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving.
  3. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else.
  4. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it!
  5. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and when the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that is the beginning of the end of any nation.

No one exactly knows the origin of this story. It has been shared in many places all over the internet. As for the source of this, I found it here, written by Guyus Seralius.

Seralius describes socialism in these words: Socialism is an economic and political system (based on group-interest and cooperation) in which all the means of production and distribution are collectively owned and operated by all members of a society, rather than completely divided up to be privately owned amongst individuals or a select few. In other words, instead of one person or a few receiving all the profits and having all the control, everyone gets their fair share for their labors and has some sway.”

Jiggs Kalra’s Recipe for Meat Beliram

Jiggs Kalra’s Recipe for Meat Beliram

Ingredients

  • 1.2 kilos assorted cuts of lamb
  • 1/2 kilo onions
  • 50 grams garlic
  • 5 cloves
  • Salt to taste
  • 125 grams ghee (clarified butter)
  • 600 ml yogurt
  • 70 grams ginger
  • 10 chhoti (small) elaichi (cardamom)
  • 2 sticks cinnamon
  • 10 grams Kashmiri deghi mirch (chili powder that has more color than heat)
  • 15 grams dhania (coriander seeds)

Preparation

  1. Clean and cut into 1.5 inch chunks; clean the chops.
  2. Whisk yogurt in a large bowl.
  3. Peel, wash, and slice onions. Scrape, wash and finely chop ginger. Peel and chop garlic.
  4. Mix all the ingredients, except coriander seeds and ghee, with yogurt and leave the lamb chunks in the marinade for 1 hour 45 minutes.

Cooking

  1. Heat ghee in a haandi (large cooking utensil).
  2. Add coriander seeds and saute over medium heat until they begin to crackle.
  3. Add the lamb, with the marinade then bring to a boil stirring constantly.
  4. Cover and simmer, stirring at regular intervals, until the meat is tender.
  5. Uncover, increase to medium heat and bhunno (saute) until the fat leaves the masala. Adjust the seasoning.

Serve

Transfer to a serving dish and serve with tandoori rotis.